Reach Out. That's the Hardest Part.
Becky Ruff, MS, LCMHC, NCC, CCTP, CCPS — APSATS-Certified Partner Specialist
Serving Utah & Idaho — In Person & Online
What Happens When You Reach Out?
You've probably been staring at this page for a while. Deciding. Wondering if it's "bad enough" yet. Rehearsing what you'd even say.
Here's the truth: you don't need to have anything figured out before contacting me. You don't need to know the right words, the right timeline, or the right questions. You just need to send one message — and I'll take it from there.
Here's exactly what happens after you reach out:
1. I Respond Personally
Usually within one business day. Not an assistant, not an autoresponder — me. I'll offer times for a free 15-minute consultation by phone or video, whichever feels safer to you.
2. We Talk — 15 Minutes, No Pressure
You share as much or as little as you're comfortable with. You ask questions — about my approach, about sessions, about anything. I answer honestly. We decide together whether I'm the right fit for what you need.
3. You Decide
If it feels right, we schedule a first session. If not — or if you need time — that's completely fine. No follow-up pressure, no strings attached. Some people take the consultation and start weeks later. Some never do. All of those are okay.
Not ready to talk yet? That's understandable. Feel free to explore Resilient Light Counseling blog articles, join the community on Instagram and Facebook, and listen to the Rise Up Restored podcast to get a feel for how I approach this work before reaching out.
Ways to Reach Me
Send a message — send it anytime, day or night.
Your message is confidential.
Please do NOT include detailed sensitive information in this form — we'll cover everything securely once we connect.
Direct Contact
Email: becky@resilientlightcounseling.com
Podcast questions (anonymous): becky@riseuprestored.com
Location: Utah-based, serving clients throughout Utah and Idaho — in person and via secure telehealth.
Is This The Right Place For You?
I help adults in Utah and Idaho who are navigating:
Betrayal trauma after discovering infidelity, secret sexual behavior, or a hidden life
The aftermath of a partner's sex addiction, pornography addiction, or compulsive sexual behavior
Deciding whether to rebuild or end the relationship, including couples therapy after infidelity
Grief and loss — including ambiguous loss and grief after faith transition
All identities are welcome here — my practice is LGBTQ-affirming, and I serve women, men, and non-binary partners alike.
Have questions about therapy, fees, or what to expect? Many answers are already on the FAQ page
In Crisis? Immediate Help Is Available
My practice provides scheduled therapy, which means I can't respond to emergencies in real time. If you are in immediate danger or thinking about harming yourself, please use the resources below right now. You matter, and help is available this minute.
Call 911
If you or someone else is in immediate physical danger, call <strong>911</strong> or go to your nearest emergency room.
Call or Text 988
The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — free, confidential support, 24/7. Call or text 988 if you're in emotional distress, having suicidal thoughts, or in any mental health crisis.
Crisis Text Line
Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor by text message — free, 24/7.
Utah Crisis Line
Utah's 24-hour crisis line (Huntsman Mental Health Institute): 801-587-3000 — statewide crisis support and referral, including mobile crisis outreach.
Idaho Suicide Prevention Hotline
Call or text 208-398-4357 (HELP) — Idaho's 24/7 crisis line, or call/text 988.
Domestic Violence Support
If you're experiencing abuse or feel unsafe in your home, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE), or text "START" to 88788.
Veterans Crisis Line
Veterans, service members, and their families can dial 988 then press 1, or text 838255.
One more thing: if you're in the first desperate hours after discovering betrayal and you're not in crisis but you're barely holding on — that's real too. You can send me a message anytime; I'll respond.
Not Ready to Reach out Yet?
That's more common than you'd think. You can stay connected in gentler ways while you decide:
Listen to the Rise Up Restored podcast — five-minute answers to the questions you're probably asking yourself right now
Read answers to common questions about therapy, fees, and what to expect
Follow Resilient Light Counseling on Instagram and Facebook for encouragement
When you're ready, this page will still be here
Take the Next Step When You're Ready
Whether you discovered the betrayal yesterday or have been carrying it alone for months, one message starts the process. Free consultation. No pressure. No obligation. Just a conversation with someone who understands.
