Free Resources for Betrayed Partners
Practical tools for the hardest phases — no email, no signup, no catch
You shouldn't have to fill out a form to get help at 2 a.m. Everything here is free to download, print, share, and keep — created by a certified partner specialist and built for real use, not marketing.
Maybe you just found out. Maybe you found out weeks ago and you're still drowning. Or maybe you're holding it together at work by day and falling apart at night — and no one at the office knows why.
These resources exist for those moments. Each one is a downloadable, printable tool designed to work tonight — without requiring you to be calm, ready, or "past" anything.
Take what fits. Share what helps. That's what they're for.
Browse the resources below ↓
The First 30 Days Survival Kit
Seven tools for the acute phase after discovery
The sleep protocol, the panic tool, the checking-urge strategy — practical help for insomnia, intrusive thoughts, panic, hypervigilance, appetite collapse, rumination, and decision paralysis. Designed to be read on your phone at 3 a.m.
10-page PDF · Free · No email required
Link HERE for more info on the Survival Kit
The Betrayal Trauma Symptoms Checklist
Name what's happening to you
Seven categories of symptoms betrayed partners actually experience. Check off what applies — and see, in black and white, that what you're experiencing is real, common, and treatable. Partners bring it to doctors and therapists.
2-page PDF · Free · No email required
Link HERE for more info on the Checklist
The Holding It Together at Work Workbook
Function at work when your world just shattered
Scripts for coworkers, the boss-conversation decision tree, the 90-second desk-side reset, brain-fog workarounds — seven tools for the 9-to-5 version of crisis.
2-page PDF · Free · No email required
Coming soon: more info on the Holding It Together Workbook…
WHO THESE ARE FOR
These resources are for anyone in the aftermath of a partner's affair, pornography addiction, or compulsive sexual behavior — whether you found out yesterday or a year ago, whether you're staying, leaving, or have no idea yet. They're the same tools I hand clients in early betrayal trauma therapy.
They're for coping and stabilization. They're not therapy — and each one tells you plainly when it's time to reach for professional help.
THE PATH FORWARD
The resources help you cope. Therapy helps you heal.
These tools manage symptoms — the sleepless nights, the panic, the performance at work. Trauma treatment resolves the injuries underneath them. If weeks have passed and the waves aren't spacing out, betrayal trauma therapy is specific, effective, and yours regardless of what your partner does or doesn't do.
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation
Looking to understand what you're experiencing first? Start with the blog: What Is Betrayal Trauma? (And Why It Feels Like Losing Your Mind)
