Real Answers About Betrayal Trauma — In Five Minutes or Less

Hosted by Becky Ruff, APSATS-Certified Partner Specialist & Betrayal Trauma Therapist in Utah

New episodes weekly. Short, clinically grounded answers to the questions partners actually ask — no fluff, no jargon, no pressure.

Big News: A New Format

Rise Up Restored is evolving. While past seasons featured longer interviews with experts and heartfelt listener music episodes — and all of that remains available in the archive — the podcast is moving to a focused, weekly format: five-minute answers to your questions about betrayal trauma, infidelity recovery, sex addiction partner support, and grief.

Faith remains a thread of hope woven through this work for those who draw strength from it — and listeners of every background and belief are welcome here. Restoration looks different for everyone, and every path to healing is honored.

What We Cover

Betrayal trauma — what it is, why it feels like losing your mind, and how healing actually works

Partner support for those whose partners struggle with sex addiction, pornography addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, or out-of-control sexual behavior

Infidelity recovery — staying, leaving, or the space in between

Boundaries, grief, self-trust, and rebuilding your life after discovery

Anonymous listener questions — answered with clinical honesty and compassion

RECENT Episodes

Ask Becky Your Question — Anonymously

Every episode starts with a real question from a real person. Yours could be next.

No name required. No identifying details needed. Just the question keeping you up at night — and I'll answer it for you and everyone else who's wondered the same thing.

Submit your anonymous question below or email: becky@riseuprestored.com

The Archive: 88+ Episodes and Growing

Before the format change, Rise Up Restored featured in-depth interviews with therapists, authors, and experts on betrayal trauma recovery — plus beloved listener music episodes where survivors shared the songs that carried them through.

All of it is still here. Browse the full archive below:

Recommended Resources

Finding Peace and Hope

Just like each one of us is different, there is no one-size-fits-all resource on your healing journey. Below are some resources that have helped us. And please check out our podcasts and posts for additional resources shared by our guests.

Books

“Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal” by Barbara Steffens- The best book I have found to explain what happens to your heart, mind, and body when there is betrayal trauma in a relationship. It also includes what you can do about it! Such a hopeful and powerful read!

“Boundaries” by Cloud & Townsend- I recommend this book to everyone. Boundaries are the key to healthy relationships, especially when betrayal is present.

“What Can I Do About Me” by Rhyll Croshaw- A great book about the journey to find healing through the trauma. healing through betrayal trauma, one honest step at a time.

Support Groups & Communities

Individual therapy and groups — being seen and heard is a large factor in healing. Sharing in a safe space is a vital step toward recovery.

TS-12 Anon- My #1 recommended 12-step support group. A trauma-sensitive adaptation of the tradition 12 steps.

Other options:

SALifeline

Healing through Christ

About Your Host

Becky Ruff is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC), APSATS-certified partner specialist (CCPS), Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and Somatic Experiencing, Brainspotting and EMDR-trained therapist serving clients in Utah and Idaho — in person and online.

Her practice, Resilient Light Counseling, specializes in betrayal trauma therapy, partner support, couples therapy after infidelity, grief counseling, and LGBTQ-affirming therapy.

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Ready for More Than Five Minutes?

The podcast answers your questions. Therapy transforms your life. If you're ready for specialized betrayal trauma support, Becky is accepting new clients in Utah and Idaho.